by Annette Young
We all know the importance of self-worth but when your confidence has been shaken to the core after experiencing a manipulative or damaging relationship, it’s a fair assumption to say that your sense of self-worth is likely to be impacted too. Each relationship has its own positives and negatives and it is only fair that we enter each relationship with an open mind, hoping that we have made the right choices and that the positives of this connection far outweigh any difficulties that may exist. But when a relationship starts to chip away at your very essence until you begin to question and doubt your own abilities in life, those alarm bells should be ringing very loudly indeed.
Your self-worth is often all that will stand between your staying in a destructive relationship and having the courage to strike out alone. It’s not easy, but the belief that you deserve better will carry you through. When a partner is deliberately manipulative, you can guarantee that the aim will be to strip away your confidence and to make you start second guessing yourself. It’s an easy hop to then destroying how you feel about yourself. Bit by bit, your self-worth will be shredded until it is less easy to remember the person you once were or to rebuild that sense of self.
You may have given away your power but note, you can take it back too. Don’t think about mending a relationship that is a selfish one-way street, instead, concentrate on building your appreciation of who you are, one building block at a time. When your heart is filled with love and pain at your partner’s treatment of you, it can be overwhelming and difficult to see with true clarity. But, if you are in the midst of a heart-breaking but damaging connection ask yourself this, what do you really gain by staying in this relationship? Does it make you happy or do you self-destruct yet further each day that passes?
Your self-worth is an integral part of you, protect and nourish it and it will serve you well.
Annette Young is a successful freelance writer, author and editor with a multitude of published writing credits to her name worldwide. She is the editor of http://breakfreefromabuse.com and writes passionately on this subject helping sufferers of abuse onto the road of recovery.
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